Suppressed Emotions, Spiritual Bypassing & the Lie of Separation | Safe to Heal, Part 3

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Welcome to Unhinged: Separating Faith from Fiction!

02:14 Suppressing Emotions: “You Just Need to Have Faith”

03:45 Spiritual Bypassing: When Faith Becomes Emotional Avoidance

05:19 Why Acknowledging Your Emotions Is Part of Healing

06:23 Dual Attention: Processing Trauma Without Denying Reality

08:17 When Spiritual Bypassing Leaves You Feeling Invisible

10:22 “Feelings Aren’t Facts” — But Your Feelings Still Matter

11:59 The “Impassibility” of God: Is God Emotionless?

12:47 Embodied Faith: Jesus Had Real Human Emotions

13:44 Emotional Regulation vs. Emotional Suppression

15:04 God Can Handle Your Negative Emotions

17:21 Separation Theology: Are We Really Separate From God?

19:53 Have You Gone Too Far for God?

20:25 Christian Separation Anxiety & Emotional Safety

21:54 “I Feel a Hole in My Heart” — Separation Theology & Emptiness

24:02 Evangelical Dualism: “We’re Sinful, God Is Holy”

25:02 The “Great Chasm” & the Toxic Foundation of Separation

26:18 How Separation Theology Affects the Nervous System

27:38 The One Theme Connecting It All: SAFETY

32:04 Curiosity vs. Judgment: A Path Toward Healing

36:00 Why the Holy Spirit Has to Feel Safe

36:21 A Therapist’s Surprising Response to a Panic Attack

39:08 Why “We’re More Than Conquerors” Can Become Spiritual Bypassing

41:36 Wrap-Up & Prayer